Choosing a Guiding Word for 2018

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I chose a word this year to act as my guide. Whenever I feel like I'm drifting with no solid place to land, this word is my compass to redirect and show me where to go. If I'm caught in a dilemma and don't know what answer to choose, my word will decide it for me. 'll ask: what answer will bring me closer to my guiding word? And a choice will be made. My word for the year is Connection.

I've asked the people I mentor to choose their guiding word. It's easy to say: Just pick one! But I've discovered some people are stumped with the process of finding their word. To make it easier, I'll outline the process I used. 

Divide a blank sheet of paper by drawing a line vertically in the middle. On the top left write 'Do Not Want' and on the Top Right write 'Do Want.'

First, I got clarity of what I really didn't want any longer. To do that, list at least 5 situations on the left side of the paper that you no longer want to experience. These have to be really stressful things you've been experiencing that you really want to get rid of in your life. Some examples:

I don't want to be in debt.
I don't want to be overweight.
I don't want to get mad and shout at my kids.

These are very general. Please use your own specific 'don't wants.' To the right of each item in you list, write the feeling that is attached to the situation that you no longer want to experience. Example:

I don't want to be in debt. - stressed out and anxious
I don't want to be overweight. - unattractive and unconfident
i don't want to get mad and shout at my kids, - guilty, ashamed, I'm a bad mom

Close your eyes and see yourself in all those situations. Sit with the feeling. When I did this I used essential oils to bring it up to the surface more. Feels bad, right? Crazy thing is is that you most likely have been letting the energy of those thoughts and feelings course through your body on an auto setting without being aware. It's easy to let our 'don't wants' rule our lives without question. Your guiding word will help put a stop to that.

Next up, fold your sheet of paper in half so your 'Do Want' side is face up and you can write on it. Write at least 5 things/situations that you DO want to experience. Examples:

I want my marriage to be respectful and peaceful.
I want to laugh with my kids more.
I want to lose weight. 

If you notice, these aren't SMART goals. Meaning that you're not being specific with them and attaching a certain date or number such as 'I want to lose 10 lbs. in 3 months.' SMART goals are the recommended way to plan for a goal but we're choosing our guiding word today so we're not focused on execution; we're focused on the feeling we want in our life.

Next up - you probably guessed it! Write how you'll feel when those situations unfold. Example:

I want my marriage to be respectful and peaceful. - loved, supported, part of a team
I want to laugh more with my kids. - lighthearted, loving, good mom, fun
I want to lose weight. - beautiful, worthy, vibrant, healthy

Now it's time to close your eyes and sit in that version of you. I used an essential oil to get clarity. Really feel into her. Who is she? What attributes does she have to have in order to feel this way? Who is she? What does she exude in order to feel these positive feelings on a daily basis? Take ownership. The life you want to live always starts with you. 

Open your eyes, and on the back of your paper, list, in brainstorm fashion, all the words that came to mind as you imagined yourself as the person in the "I want" column.

From that list of words, choose your word! You can take some time to process all of it, meditate on it, really get connected to the word that you choose. 

This process has served me well and helped me come up with my word for 2018, which is, again, CONNECTION. 

I'm so glad you connected with me on here! If you found the post to be valuable please drop a comment! I would love to hear from you. <3

Mirrors Hold Magic

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Mindset if a powerful thing. the beliefs that you hold about the world, your relationships, your money, yourself, all come together to create what's called your life. 

Back in my late 20's I had a very insecure mindset...which means that I felt insecure in my day to day life. Whatever state your mind is in is the state that your life is in. 

I questioned everything...the world felt hostile to me. It seemed like outside influences were always out to get me. I questioned my husband, my husband's entrepreneurial endeavors, my oldest daughter's choices, relationships I had with friends and extended family members, my housing, my finances, my body/health, and most of all, myself. I felt like I could never be confident enough to live the kind of life I always wanted.

Being in a constant state of questioning is exhausting.

Where there's no trust, there's no peace.

And I wanted, more than anything, to feel peaceful.

Peaceful was a long way away from what I was feeling back in those days. I knew I really needed to have a shift in mindset. I kept hearing whispers telling me that I was meant for more. I'm glad I listened.

Over the last decade, I've done many things to fill my body and brain with more positivity. 

One of the very first things I did to shift my thoughts was to utilize something we all have in our homes: A mirror.

This mirror tip is so simple to do that on the surface it seems like it wouldn't make much of a difference. However, I learned over time that this tip makes a world of difference. I immediately noticed a shift in energy from negativity to positivity (not only for myself but for my entire family) after I implemented it. 

Here's my tip:

Write positive affirmations on your mirror in dry erase marker.

When I first put marker to mirror, my most pressing life challenge I wanted to address was my marriage. I had long standing programming from my childhood that led me to believe that marriage was a struggle. To prove myself right, I acted on those beliefs daily. I wasn't the best wife and my husband followed my cue. I desperately wanted to change this so my very first positive affirmation I wrote was intended to get my marriage on the right track.

I wrote this on my mirror: I am in a loving, respectful, honest marriage.

At first I didn't notice any concrete changes in behavior or circumstances. But I immediately noticed a feeling of more peace and less negative friction between my husband and I.

Then after a couple of weeks I realized that I wasn't always looking for reasons to be mad at my husband. I felt a softening towards him; sort of like some barrier was coming down. Like I didn't need to be so accusatory and defensive. The amazing thing is that this affirmation I put up was also being seen daily by my husband since it was written on our shared bathroom mirror. The affirmation was also working its magic on him! He was reading those words daily and absorbing their positive message. 

Things shifted.  Our marriage got better and better. My marriage now is something I am super proud of! I truly love my husband. And I know he loves me. 

Sure there is a lot of work that goes into creating a healthy, happy marriage and life, and that work can be fun! Especially when helped along with some mindset-shifting affirmations written on your mirror. πŸ˜‰

Everyone in my family reaps the benefits of my affirmations since we are all readers now! (My youngest is 5 years old and reads well.) I even noticed that my teenager has been writing on her mirrors recently as well. 😍

At this time I have these affirmations written on various mirrors around my house:

β€’ I Choose to be Happy

β€’ I am Powerfully Positive

β€’ I Love my Life

I change them up from time to time, depending on what energy I feels needs to be vibrating through my home. I love how simple it is to seep some good vibes into our subconscious! 

Do you think you'll start this in your home? What are some affirmations you'll write or already have written? Post a comment, I would love to hear!

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What are Essential Oils?

πŸŒΏπŸ’§Welcome to my essential oils 101 class blog post!

What is an essential oil anyway? Pictured is a marjoram leaf on the left and to the right, a magnification of the leaf. Those little dots you see on the leaf are the essential oil of the plant. These little dots do some amazing things for the plant. They help the plant to maintain an optimal temperature, help it to repel damaging bugs, help it to fight disease and recover from an injury. Plants are living things and need protection. Essential oils provide that protection. In our full circle world that we live in, plants can't survive without their essential oils, and we can't survive without plants. Pretty cool, right!? Maybe you can start to see why essential oils are so beneficial for us. We all know what we need to do to be healthy. Exercise, eat right, hydrate, practice positivity. Repeat the cycle. πŸ˜„ I view essential oils as just another layer of healthy living. People who use essential oils intentionally for their health are on the cutting edge of wellness. We understand that we work with all facets (mind, body, soul) to be the best version of ourselves that we can be.

Essential oils are natural aromatic compounds of a plant. When you are smelling the scent of a rose, you're smelling the essential oil of the rose. Essential oils can be found in the leaves, bark, seeds, rind, flower, etc. of a plant and all are steam distilled besides citrus oils. Citrus oils are cold pressed from the rind of the fruit.

Essential oils do not cure or prevent any disease or ailment. What they do is help to balance our systems so our bodies can do what they were naturally intended to do which is heal itself. πŸ™πŸ½βœ¨When you get a cut, what happens? Your body goes to work and heals that cut, right? Essential oils help us to maintain our health and therefore help us recover and regenerate faster. The healthier your system is, the faster you heal. The more unhealthy it is, the slower is the healing process. I, personally, want to be on the healing fast track. I KNOW how miraculous my body is and I want to do everything possible to to support it so it can support me to live my best life ever. Hope you learned something from this post! Have a great day. πŸ’œπŸŒΏπŸ’§πŸ™πŸ½βœ¨πŸ˜Ž